So what would you do?

digerati · Feb 22, 2005, 03:06 AM

So I'm online and my friend IMs me asking if I know this girl from school, I say no. He connects to me and sends me a pr0n picture of her. I find out the other guy in the picture is her current bf.

My friend found it posted it on a myspace profile, and he contacted the guy and he said that he also posts them on craigs list. I personally don't know this girl, but she apparently works at a fast food restaurant that I go to every now and then, it's literally 5 minutes away.

I feel like driving down and telling her, what would you do?

Son_of_Thunder · Feb 22, 2005, 03:20 AM

i'd prolly keep quiet, either that or say some smartass remark like "hey, do i know you from somewhere? no seriously...oh yah, you're that porn star!"

in all seriousness, i can't actually say w/out seeing the pic.

ok ok, fine, i'll be serious

i'd talk to her, but don't be very specific. be kinda vague and let her figure it out a bit i guess. otherwise you'll look like a porn freak. if you find out that she doesn't care about naked pics of herself...well, wait until she breaks up w/ her bf and ask her out

Judas · Feb 22, 2005, 04:11 AM

Ask the guy that posted the picture IF she knows of it..... i think you might be able to judge weather he is lieing or not.... imo, she SHOULD KNOW.... please do inform her reguardless of his answer.....

Specially if she's under the legal age, at which point... i wouldn't waist another second reading this thread and do anything to inform her

Callandor · Feb 22, 2005, 04:15 AM

Errr, I'm not "entirely" at liberty to say....

**Vikingod** · Feb 22, 2005, 08:36 AM

If she is under-age, then yes, say something. I find however as I get older, sometimes it is best to just keep your mouth shut, and let it take care of itself. Odds are, if you found out about it, a close friend of hers is going to, and that close friend should have the duty to save her from the downward spiral of porn. If you go blurting out what you saw, it going to make her feel extremely uncomfortable, as well as you. If she is underage, I wouldn't tell her, I would tell the police and have them take care of it. If she doesn't know about this, it is going to be imbarassing to her, and having some stranger come by and tell her he saw her on the internet is not going to help the situation. It not going to make you look good, and it won't help her feel better.

md5 · Feb 22, 2005, 09:43 AM

Um, that picture could have been taken by her bf... If you do tell her about it, her bf might come after you as she'll stop being with him

Counterfe1t · Feb 22, 2005, 10:12 AM

I suggest you keep quiet for now unless its a life threatening situation or if she is being abused. from past experience the messenger always gets capped for opening their mouth best to forget you saw anything.

Callandor · Feb 22, 2005, 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Counterfe1t

I suggest you keep quiet for now unless its a life threatening situation or if she is being abused. from past experience the messenger always gets capped for opening their mouth best to forget you saw anything.

Yeah, on a serious note, I think this would be the best thing to do. And also if she's underage.

pr0digal jenius · Feb 22, 2005, 10:51 AM

I'd tell her, msot definately. If she knows, no harm done, if she doesn't, I'm sure she'd appreciate it.

YAYitsAndrew · Feb 22, 2005, 10:57 AM

If you decide to tell her, don't do it at her place of work. If this is high school then it might be worth getting school administration involved. If she didn't know about the pictures then this is a good way to go. If she did and she likes them being up (exhibitionists are very common), then you just ruined their fun, you nark.

Geminiwave · Feb 22, 2005, 11:00 AM

dont tell her in public though. Make sure to make it as descrete as possible.

In fact, maybe write a letter...wait that almost seems stalkerish. Hmm..

Tell her you want to speak with her privately(but since she doesnt know you, she'll be hesitent) but give her the letter telling her about the pictures and she'll prob talk with you. In fact give her lots of options...put down your phone number and address and email in there so that she has diff ways of contacting you depending on her level of comfort. If she knows about it and shes cool with it, she'll just go talk to you(or possibly even if she didnt know about it she'll talk to you). If shes REALLY not cool with it, she'll email you or write you a letter back.

Either way, girls can get really sensitive about this, and even though you'lre trying to do the right thing, she might get really mad at you for the fact that you've seen it(not your fault...but girls are like that sometimes).

**Vikingod** · Feb 22, 2005, 11:59 AM

it sort of seems after reading a few of these that a womans opinion is required. I mean, some of the stuff said sounds fine to a guy, but after living with a woman and two little girls, believe me, we operate on different wave lengths. To bad there are like... 2 .... women that frequent the site, I would get a hold of one of them.

for the record, I still think the best idea is to let her friends handle it, its not your place my friend.