family problem

jasonbourne · Feb 12, 2005, 05:49 PM

i think this is going to be the weirdest thread on this site,im sure that there are alot of people here that understand alot bout computers specially bout video cards and to know all that im sure they had to sacrifice alot of their time cuz i know myself that it takes alot of ur time and u must know how to control that.my wife has been moaning alot bout me spending too many hours on the computer im sure that u guys have or are facingthis problem as well i'd like to know how u guys handled that ?

GutterPunk · Feb 12, 2005, 06:04 PM

Get a laptop, you can sneak away anywhere and be on. Whats your occupation (sometimes you can blame it on that, and make sure you have a LCD, so she cant see exactly what your doing from the sides.

Another thing is, in a marriage both people MUST give 100%, that means compromise. Sometimes maybe you have give in a little. You can't leti t take hold of your life, if i had a wife I feel that I'd wanna spend more time with her than my computer. If none of this helps out im sorry but ill try to think of some more stuff that may help you out.

Best of Luck to you my friend

Geminiwave · Feb 12, 2005, 06:25 PM

good point.

on the other hand, while you must comprimise, she does too. You both have to sit down and talk about this and come to an agreement.

redsolar · Feb 12, 2005, 08:13 PM

Here is my personal opinion on relationships, when a PC is involved from one or from the other side. While it's great when you can reach the consensus, and it's even better when you both like PCs (I am lucky here), you do have to talk about it.

While I am not a relationships couselor or anything like this, think about it this way. Before you met, you both had something you were used to doing, and regradless of what it was, you connected. In a relationship I think it's boring when all you do is spend time with each other, and shield yourself from what you used to do. It's unnatural to say the least.

I prefer talking everything that troubles us over, in a calm manner, and it really depends on how you can present it, and what the situation is now. If you spend more than 1-2 hours with a PC every day, you may need to sacrifice a little more time for the family, if the relationship is important to you.

Remember, you share the same blanket, don't try to pull it too much on your side, the other side may get cold.

riles9262 · Feb 12, 2005, 08:21 PM

I used to have that argument all the time with my wife. I just had to learn to sacrifice the gaming and pc stuff, especially on our days off together. I spend quite a bit of time on the pc if I'm at home by myself, but if we're both at home simultaneously, I rarely spend more than an hour on the pc during the day. Just come to a compromise with her about what she finds acceptable and work from there; communication is key.

CDsDontBurn · Feb 12, 2005, 09:04 PM

although i'm not married, i've been in enough relationships to know that communication is the most important part of any relationship. Your wife is telling you that you are spending more time on the computer than you are with her. It could be anything as simple as renting and watching a movie together, or going out to dinner, or going out to a theme park or something of that nature.

Like previously stated you gotta sacrifice some things you do on a normal basis, but it also goes the other way.

**MIG-31** · Feb 13, 2005, 03:19 AM

It's great being single

(plus a little addicted to my pc)

i'd die without mine.....But all the comments above make great sence.a compromise will be the best solution.

pr0digal jenius · Feb 13, 2005, 01:14 PM

I personally have it pretty easy. I live at college during the week, and so I just get my computing fix there, and then spend the weekends with the girlfriend(granted I'd rather see her more often, but c'est la vie)

As for you, I reccomend you try and shave off some computing time, and get her to be a bit more understanding and achieve some form of happy medium

***Zardon*** · Feb 13, 2005, 01:17 PM

yes its very easy. divorce her, any woman who tells you how to run your life shouldnt be with you.

pr0digal jenius · Feb 13, 2005, 01:19 PM

...that too is true to a fairly large extent.

They should love/respect you for who you are...not who they wanna turn you into

Drakon · Feb 13, 2005, 02:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zardon

yes its very easy. divorce her, any woman who tells you how to run your life shouldnt be with you.

wow Z, you surely are a great source of advice when it comes to the ladies.

***Zardon*** · Feb 13, 2005, 02:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Drakon

wow Z, you surely are a great source of advice when it comes to the ladies.

Well I know what I said wasn't what jason wanted to hear and I was semi joking, but.......... ive seen too many mates run their lives arounds their girlfriends or wives only to find one day they actually arent living at all.

Its learned with experience drakon, reach my age and you will understand the wisdom of my words

Drakon · Feb 13, 2005, 02:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zardon

Well I know what I said wasn't what jason wanted to hear and I was semi joking, but.......... ive seen too many mates run their lives arounds their girlfriends or wives only to find one day they actually arent living at all.

Its learned with experience drakon, reach my age and you will understand the wisdom of my words

I understand Z, just was teasing ya a lil...

CDsDontBurn · Feb 13, 2005, 03:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zardon

yes its very easy. divorce her, any woman who tells you how to run your life shouldnt be with you.

well....this part for me........i'm glad i didn't go any further w/my ex gf

. She was pretty much controling my every breath

.

kelticknight · Feb 13, 2005, 03:57 PM

me and my darling wife have a agreement.few day a week at nite time or day time ,we have together time to do what ever.out of a whole week,its not much to ask,the rest of the time we do what ever we both want.we give each other space and at the same time have our time together,after all we have a life time together,my 2 cents imput

Sargentwhitey · Feb 13, 2005, 04:20 PM

Nice agreement . I like the way it worked out

pr0digal jenius · Feb 13, 2005, 06:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zardon

Well I know what I said wasn't what jason wanted to hear and I was semi joking, but.......... ive seen too many mates run their lives arounds their girlfriends or wives only to find one day they actually arent living at all.

Its learned with experience drakon, reach my age and you will understand the wisdom of my words

my Ex useta call me and tell me to get off the video game and talk to her whenever she got bored....lol

Chubby_C · Feb 14, 2005, 11:06 PM

Wife and I live in a basement if I'm on the computer I'm only 5 feet from the couch so its like we're spending time together, that will work until our house is finished in July and I have my own computer room.

Some of the simple things to do would be to go to bed at the same time together, as opposed to her going to bed and you staying up to use the computer (Don't know if that happens or not),

ensure you make a point to eat together every chance you get

and ensure you go out together for movie/dinner once a week.

thats all I got