Grandfather

tastyweat · Sep 26, 2004, 05:50 PM

Two weeks after I was born my father left my mother to go off with another woman and he has never been back since... thus as my mum had to work very hard, my grandparents played a highly important role in my upbringing and so I am very attached to both of them... I care for them very much.

Well... they were on holiday in Turkey over the past two weeks and were due to fly back last night... but in the middle of the day on friday my grandfather suffered from a burst aorta (a rather major artery)... he was 1hr 30mins from the hospital where he could be operated on (a little later we found out that the chance of him making it alive to the hospital was 10%)... luckily he made it to the hospital alive... he had open heart surgery that night and they replaced the burst artery with a plastic couterpart... the chance of him coming through the operation was 40% (so now his survival possibility had dwindled down to a pathetic 4%) and yet the tough old blighter pulled through the operation... once through the operation... the chances of him waking back up again were 75%... so survival chance went down again to the 3% area

He was supposed to wake up about middayish yesterday... it's now nearly midnight the following day (36 hours after he should have woken up) and there's still no sign of him waking up and they can't take him of the ventilator yet either.... I can't believe that he would get through all the tough bits and then just not wake up... i mean - he got through the 10% transfer to the hospital... then the 40% operation... then he gets to the easy bit of waking up and he just doesn't... i mean... how can that be? I just don't understand... thankfully... there's still time... he's currently in a stable condition in the ICU (Intensive Care Unit) so he could still come around... but he's already 36 hours late!

Now my mum is taking this very hard and is getting angry for no reason what-so-ever and I am the only person present to take the butt end of it... so not only am I having a very hard time coping with hearing all developments from a fifth party, I am also getting shouted at for no reason every so often and it's making it even worse... I completely understand why she is being like that... but it just makes it even harder on me.

It would really mean alot to me if you guys could wish him your best... I'm in a bad state here and just need that little glimore of hope inside me to be re-awakened.

Thanks

Jon

btw... his name is Derek

tastyweat · Sep 26, 2004, 05:54 PM

the only reason i am not over there at the moment with my mum is because this coming week is extremely important to my future with regard to university applications... it all has to be finished by the end of the week... if he starts to deteriorate then screw it... my mum and I are flying over... as it is - we will be flying over this coming friday night/saturday morning no matter what... for at least a week.

**dj_stick** · Sep 26, 2004, 05:54 PM

im sure everyone here is in support of you and your grandfather - i hope all goes well

***craig5320*** · Sep 26, 2004, 06:02 PM

My thoughts are with you and your family Jon, I'm sure he'll hang in there if he's made it this far, take care mate.

Craig

tastyweat · Sep 26, 2004, 06:06 PM

Thank you for the kind words... they are greatly appreciated...

... long day today... it's gone midnight... I have to try and get some sleep because i still have to endure school tomorrow... nite guys

Drakon · Sep 26, 2004, 06:10 PM

wish ur grandfather a very speedy recovery, tasty...

hang in there...

Ev!L-aLphA · Sep 26, 2004, 06:15 PM

ill pray for ur grandpa! i really hope he recoveres !

nathan

riles9262 · Sep 26, 2004, 06:53 PM

Wish you guys the best tw...it'll turn out bud, don't worry.

Nacht · Sep 26, 2004, 07:19 PM

I hope everything goes well with your family.

Shinjikun · Sep 26, 2004, 07:32 PM

I wish you and your family the best; I hope everything turns out for the best.

shortstuff · Sep 26, 2004, 08:16 PM

Tasty my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I hope everything works out for the best. If you need someone to talk to you know how to get in touch with me.

mainman · Sep 26, 2004, 09:02 PM

Hang in there my friend, my prayers and thoughts are with you and your family, he will pull through dont worry. God Bless my friend!!!

Judas · Sep 26, 2004, 09:25 PM

my grandfather also had a similare thing happen....

2 hours from the hostbital... highly unlikely to servive... apon entering the city were the hosbital is... it turned into a heart attack and multiple other problems.... they said he had such a slim chance of serviving another 5 hours.........

he made it through surgery... made it through 1 day ... and he was saposed to wake up within a day and a half of the surgery.....

apparently he didn't feel like it as 2 days passed.... 3...4....5.... a week..... they were about to move him into a special area as he appeared to be in good condition... surgical wounds were healing rapidly.... and everything was fine...

week and a half later.... he woke up... and wanted fast food..... go figure..

as for the truama your mother is going through, although you shouldn't and by the sounds of it... you kinda arn't taking all and everything she says seriously like it was your fault..... Your still taking it hard due to most likely not being used to and never being able to get used to that kind of ordeal...

You may want to ask her politely to take a seat, and ask what she would like... be it a job/simple task/food/ what have you, and if she appears to be in the right frame of mind to think logically about the current situation, try to talk to her...

36 hours seems like a year in your situation.... but i would not worry, carry on with what you can with the best frame of mind you can and the best work you can put into it. Think of what your grandfather would like to see happen, in the best hopes for the time, without just simply ignoring what he may be going through, make him proud...

tastyweat · Sep 27, 2004, 06:41 AM

thanks again for the words guys... he opened his eyes this morning... but only for a few mins and was not at all with it... so that's a good start... other than that no developments since last night

shortstuff · Sep 27, 2004, 06:47 AM

Glad to hear it Tasty. Please keep us posted on his recovery.

tastyweat · Sep 27, 2004, 08:22 AM

He just went severely downhill... we're catching a 10pm flight over there... the aorta split may have spread to either his brain or his feet and there's something wrong with his kidneys now too so he is on dialysis... apparently people have recovered from this but it sounds so awful... I'll probably be without internet access for the next few days

please wish him well

Drakon · Sep 27, 2004, 08:52 AM

hope he comes out of it soon and has a speed recovery. good luck, tasty...

GutterPunk · Sep 27, 2004, 10:26 AM

very sad... my prayers go towards your family and especially your grandfather. I know how you feel when it comes to attatchment of grandparents, as i spent every weekend with mine. Good luck jon, i hope all goes well

fireball · Sep 27, 2004, 10:36 AM

Hope everything turns out ok tasty.

**Vikingod** · Sep 27, 2004, 10:46 AM

sorry to hear, I am sure things are tough right now. I know how you are feeling as I just lost my grandmother to a long fight with cancer. It definetly makes things difficult having to watch your mom go through it too, and stress is high. Best regards to you, your family, and of course your grandfather.

me.myself.&.ATi · Sep 27, 2004, 10:52 AM

Jon,

i'm keeping the fingers crossed for your grandfather...

as well for your family but also especially for you...

i really hope that everything works out pretty soon...

whatever might happen....DON'T GIVE IN!!!

sincerely,

Me.Myself.&.ATi

CDsDontBurn · Sep 27, 2004, 10:59 AM

sorry about your grandpa tasty. I lost my grandpa a few years ago to cancer, it was hard and i know how you're feeling about all this. I just hope he comes through all this and gets better.

**MIG-31** · Sep 27, 2004, 12:04 PM

jon..... i only just read this post mate....... sorry to be reading this news and do hope the best for youre grandfather and yourself........

good luck.

pr0digal jenius · Sep 27, 2004, 03:42 PM

wow..best of wishes and blessings to you and your family...::hates hospitals and remembers when his grandfather had a heart attack and tripel bypass surgery::

edperks · Sep 27, 2004, 03:53 PM

My thoughts are with you and your family, Have a safe flight you will be in my prayers.

tastyweat · Sep 29, 2004, 12:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Vikingod

sorry to hear, I am sure things are tough right now. I know how you are feeling as I just lost my grandmother to a long fight with cancer. It definetly makes things difficult having to watch your mom go through it too, and stress is high. Best regards to you, your family, and of course your grandfather.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss...

Thank you everyone for your kind words.

I've found an internet cafe about 250m away from the hotel.

OK... update time... today was a good day... only two people are allowed to see him a day... to keep the risk of infections to a minimum... so my mum and gran went in today... he finally responded! My mum said ''Daddy'' and he opened his eyes wide and tried to focus on her! He seemed to be able to understand her (but couldn't talk back due to breathing assistance)... but he looked very distressed and seemed to sob a little... we think he was scared... he is so doped up that we know he is not in pain... that's at least comforting... he's now responding to basic commands now too... sqeeze hand... blink... etc... he seems to be taking small steps forward now after the big step backward on Monday morn... I can only hope he is genuinely on the road to recovery... we're not going to go and see him tomorrow... but we will see him the day after.